Herr Kommandandt + Urban Dungeon Pt. 2
So the post I did last about Herr Kommandant wasn’t a spur of the moment thing. Specifically I started getting tips about three weeks ago, and poked about for more info on my own. I only decided to go...
View ArticleUrban Dungeon & Herr Kommadant Pt. 3
Wondering what this is? Start here. So, in response to making the allegations public, at my current count we have one well meaning unrelated interloper doing the false accusations hurt people shtick...
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Femdom Review: SVACOM Cathy, Yay or Nae?
SVACOM asked me to review a part of their catalog, the pink silicone skin vibrator titled “Cathy”. There’s only one problem, I generally find 99% of vibes, through no fault of their own, leave my lady...
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Herr Kommandandt, Abuse & Montreal Fetish Weekend Pt. 4
One of the more long running, cross-scene kink events is the Montreal Fetish Weekend, a multi-day little sister of things like the Folsom Street Fair. Taking advantage of the city’s traditionally...
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Crazy Messages: Sessions for Salad Dressing Plz?
It’s not unusual to get unsolicted messages on fetlife, as a woman. For a background my relationship to Wildcard is featured pretty prominently, and my profile is set to events only. If I want to play...
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Something Positive From MTL: A Lingerie for Men Show!
After that necessary barrage of negativity about abuse allegations, and the unhinged messages from special salad man, I want to digress into talking about something pretty neat happening in my city… A...
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Herr Kommandandt Quits. Now What?
Herr Kommandandt has stepped down from his role in Urban Dungeon, and allegedly the BDSM scene. After the number of abuse allegations climbed to 11+ separate individuals with startlingly similar...
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The Kink Role Decoder You Were Waiting For
Ever wondered what those titles and identifier tags meant? This list is here to set you straight when you are getting kinky. Primal Predator: He really likes rough sex. Somehow this impresses some...
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Femdom Life: NO-vember Begins
November is prostate cancer and men’s health, diabetes and national novel writing month. It’s also the first quiet period I’ve had in a long time. Thus begins the month of Pearl Not Doing Things. A...
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A Sex Shop Date With Wildcard
Last Saturday, Wildcard identified my doldrums as needing fixing, s we went out to watch Dr. Strange and then gorge on sushi, the latter activity almost meaning a visit to the nearby sex shop, called...
View ArticleThe Crown & Home Cooking
It was a Tuesday, but not a #PunishTuesday. I came home and I don’t think he’d left the bed since I went to work that morning. It’s his vacation and I want him to rest, but like many humans with a...
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I’m Number 42!
So it’s the end of the year, and there’s the usual little puff of awards to waft us out. I deliberately skipped the kinkly awards this year (not even the winners were exactly happy with them) but got...
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Post Mortem 2016
2016 was not a sexy year. It was a year where I had a very complicated relationship with the Montreal BDSM Community (which is a nice way to say I shouted about sexual assault allegations) and also a...
View ArticleI Can’t Endorse You, And The Fact That This Bothers You Is A Warning
So Montreal is very blessed with a large BDSM scene. Although clubs and dungeons come and go, based on trends and the notoriously tight wallets of the average kinky citizen, you have your pick of...
View ArticleSickness and Idleness
It’s been two weeks since I went into the emergency room, my stomach so pained that I was crying with it. Two months of hurting, escalating from a week of bad things pushed on me. They scoped me out,...
View ArticleRambles and Stream of Consciousness
I feel neither coherent nor productive, so you’re getting a stream of consciousness while I continue my sick leave from gainful employment. What did you do today? I corrected my insurer who flipped my...
View ArticleLARP Boys & Sexuality
I am awash in LARP boys. I am seriously concerned if I show up for one of the conventions, it’s going to be spontanious bukkake with the amount of attention. Which brings up the same thing I have...
View ArticleTribal Solutions To Old Problems
Once upon a time I was assaulted. Three times, the last time I fought back and punched him in the head. I learned like all niafs in the BDSM scene that not everyone respects you. I grew up. I first...
View ArticleThe Tower and the Chariot
The news of my estranged mother’s breast cancer adds one more variable in the tornado of shrapnel that is my life. Good news on my insurance paperwork is the trade off. Probably getting paid for my...
View ArticleTrans-Mortem
The whole process of my breakup is not done. We are still in awkward close quarters, negotiating the logistics of the seperation as we each move into our own household. Lots of crying. He took a week...
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